Project Description

Depression. A word that most people think they understand, though the understanding of this cannot be viewed in a static sense.

Rather, it should be seen as an evolving understanding, one that grows and develops with each person’s unique experience. We often make the mistake to categorise someone, though how can we develop a linear definition for such a complex process? The intensity with which we experience depression varies greatly, though there are some common denominators. It can be viewed as the mechanism of despair, one that degrades, and may ultimately eclipse the capacity to give or receive affection.

For some it is the loneliness within us made manifest, and can destroy not only the connection to others, but also the connectedness to one self. The meaninglessness of every engagement and every emotion, the meaninglessness of life in its entirety, is self-evident. The only feeling that seems to be left in this loveless state, is an overwhelming sense of insignificance. The need to do something is there, though it feels like there is an affect, and emotion, that is unavailable to you. There is a physical need of impossible urgency and discomfort for which there seems no relief. Your vision may become narrow, the air which you are trying to breathe seems thick.

Depression can be roughly divided into mild, dysthymic, and major depression, and can be gradual, slowly creeping in. Alleviation can be brought about, however, by sharing experiences and allowing for connection with your therapist to aid in the healing process, for those who struggle with feelings of depression are often left experiencing intense feelings of loneliness, of not belonging. This could not only result in intricate dynamics in our interpersonal relationships, but can inhibit the one thing that we all strive for- Connection. For it is the authenticity in ourselves that serves to cultivate the connection between two people, and the absence of such could lead to a relationship basis of what we believe the other person needs or wants, as opposed to us offering them who we are. The hurt often arises from the struggle within, as we offer them glimpses of ourselves, yet if they fail to pick up on these clues, we feel betrayed and hurt, often rejected, which could exacerbate the cycle.

Perhaps we need to learn how to share parts of true selves, instead of expecting others to just know when we need them, and why. Engaging in a trusting therapeutic relationship enables us to create a heightened state of awareness, to develop an understanding of how the depression impacts us, and as such obtain the necessary coping skills to improve our quality of life. For we all deserve to have someone who is a thousand percent in our corner, even when we feel profoundly unlovable. Slowly, under the dependably warm gaze of your therapist, your sense of dejection and possible misery will melt away, leaving you disarmed, and as such, able to confront the parts of you that are strong enough to face the difficult times.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission”.

Mahatma Ghandi

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