You smoke, but your partner doesn’t like the habit. So you let him think you quit and you smoke only when he’s not around. That’s a big secret. What if your husband maintained a relationship with someone you despised? And they kept it a secret. Can you imagine the hurt and betrayal both couples would feel when they discovered the secret?
“Adulthood sibling rivalry may be an extension of the themes which pervaded children’s lives”, says Cape Town psychotherapist Bruce Bradfield. He lists things such as alliances with either parent, the adoption of roles which place one or other sibling in the position of scapegoat and feelings of jealousy or unprocessed anger.
Imagine asking your mom where she lives and she can’t remember. Or listening to her repeat the same story with different facts each time. Although it’s a part of life, witnessing your mom get on in years will never be easy. ‘People live longer today than ever before. As a result, many adult children find themselves taking care of their ageing parents,’ says Cape Town-based clinical psychologist Joelene Conradie.
Let me out myself straight away. I do like my telly. I have an unabashed crush on boerbul lookalike Commissioner Frank Reagan in Blue Bloods; Dr ‘McDreamy’ Shepherd of Grey’s Anatomy and I have a longstanding affair; and I adore Horatio’s thousand-yard sideways stare in CSI Miami. But I’m so very glad I didn't have a TV for much of my childhood.
The day has arrived. After a flurry of morning activity, you are walking to the entrance of the chosen school, holding your child’s hand. The thoughts are running through your mind: Will they make friends easily? How will they cope with homework?
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Leatia Stemmet is a Johannesburg based Counselling Psychologist (BA, UNISA; BA. Honours in Psychology, University of Johannesburg; Masters in Psychology, University of Pretoria, 2008), working with JMD Psychological Consulting. Take a look at the company website at www.jmdpsych.com and feel free to email Ms Stemmet at leatia@jmdpsych.com When choosing what to study at university/technikon etc, [...]
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by Jessica Hobbs Johannesburg based counseling psychologist, Leatia Stemmet, gives her advice on goal-setting and decision making, with a focus on difficult life situations. Take a look at her site, www.dannerup.com What is the difference between problem solving and goal setting? Goal setting is future orientated, and involves thinking about your future ideals, and motivating yourself [...]
